This Ain't Easy

One of the reasons why I've stepped up my fertility quest recently is because I recently found a donor.  Yes, it's someone I know and love.  I was a big chicken about asking -- seriously, that's fucking scary! -- but this person mentioned their interest in another conversation, and, well, it developed from there.

We've had some beautiful discussions and contract negotiations, that further my positive feelings that this is the right person.  We are not interested in co-parenting, but even still, we are on the same page on many issues.  I love having real, adult conversations about really emotionally-charged topics, and having them like very mature adults!  I'm so glad that we're all grown-ups and can handle these things with grace and composure.  THIS AIN'T EASY, but doing it with the right people makes a huge difference.

So the contract is largely written, but still needs some tweaks.  Some great resources that I've used in building my contract are Single Mothers by Choice. and www.MaiaMidwifery.com.  My very good friend Z has been acting as legal counsel during negotiations, and while she pushes buttons and brings up topics we don't want to think/talk about, she's making sure that all bases are covered.

I'm feeling quite proud of myself lately.  THIS AIN'T EASY, but I'm checking all the little boxes and getting it done.  Tonight, I plan on curling up on the sofa with my herbal tea and perusing the book that arrived at my door today: Big, Beautiful & Pregnant.  Fatties need love too, and I've been hearing good things about this book.

Good night!  --BDM

Doctor Appointments

So, I'm in the process of switching primary care physicians (PCPs), and I scheduled an appointment with my new PCP  (Dr. M) for mid-March.  Wanting to start inseminations in early March, I asked her advice on medication I'm on and its effects on conception and pregnancy.  She doesn't have some special OB something something that she needs to advise me on such matters, so she sends me to Dr. G, an obstetrician.

I try to make an appointment with Dr. G, but he reviews my chart, and places me in the "high risk" category.  It is not mentioned the reason(s) I'm high-risk (I'm 35, fat, and have high blood pressure, so it could be any one of those things). He can't advise high-risk patients, so he sends me to Dr. T.  Apparently, Dr. T is some super-specialist?

My appointment with Dr. T is in late February, which is good timing.  While I'm a little woogedy about being dubbed "high-risk," if it gets me into see the doctors sooner, then that's fine by me.

In other health news, I'm in love with my Acupuncturist.  And I mean that in a purely professional, non-gender-specific way.  He's been working with me for about a month and, based on how well I've been responding to treatment, he's very optimistic about my chances of becoming pregnant.  He even prescribed some magic chinese herbs that are going to help prep my body.  They taste like ginger-y bile, but totally tolerable.

Tomorrow I've got an appointment with Dr. P, my Chiropractor.  I haven't talked with him about fertility, but I'm going to use some time tomorrow to give him a heads-up.  I really want to attack this from all sides.  My health is strongest when I handle it really holistically, so I believe that I should handle my fertility in a similar manner.

Wish me luck!

Big Dyke Mama

If you know me at all, you might be aware that I don't do anything right.  Or fast.  Or within any average social conventions.

Nope.

Also, if you know me at all, you are likely aware of how much I love children and that I've wanted to be a mom since I was in preschool.

Really.

So, how does a person who wants babies -- but who does everything backwards -- have babies?  We're gonna find out.

Yep.

Big Dyke Mama on a fertility quest.

Yeehaw!